Her creepy little eye

So Unlike most babies just hang out and stay still during ultrasounds Brooklyn was very happy moving around and opening her mouth movin her eye and showing us her little booty… Great ultrasound Pictures, but what a creep

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The weight gain, 23 weeks and counting

So now that we know this sweet little future baby is a girl, I will call future baby a she instead of a he.
We did wish for a boy only for traditional reasons of having a big brother and knowing the little girl will grow up to be a Tom Boy, she is so doomed. But we can’t wait!!!
Now more then ever I feel the wee one move around and after seeing the ultrasound clearly I wonder if she punching me or kicking me. The feeling of something in your belly is unreal and not what any book describes. Its not really like gas bubbles or an upset stomach, its like someone is poking you from the inside out just to say hello. She seems to be really active after I eat, probably because she has decided to eat all of my food because once again I am hungry. We are still happy with the name Brooklyn though we may decide to change it.
Yesterday we had lunch with friends and we sat and laughed at the terrible names parents give their children, you think it would be illegal to do so. But my peeps really are fond of Jameson, Jamie for short, which I find concerning since this is also our whiskey of choice. So little Brooklyn she will stay.
With 23 weeks here the baby is now growing fat on her body, which means more weight gain for me, at least another pound or two before the month is over. Im not really find of the weight gain, its terribly uncomfortable and extremely annoying. Putting on my shoes is the hardest task of the day now. It seems to go like this…
Sit
Lean
Hold my breath
Force shoe on my foot
Lean back breath… heavily
and again Lean
Hold breath
Force other shoe on
lean back to breathe again
This is where the exhaustion sits in because I try getting creative by lifting my foot towards me while tying it…. which is pointless because I get about half way through the bow making process and my foot falls to the ground and I am again out of breath
and I think to myself… the book was right I should have bought some cute slip on shoes, but I love my converse
At this point, I’m normally sick of trying and if Robert isn’t around, I’m keeping them untied until further notice. and now I go on with my day after already exerting all of my energy into shoe tying.
How ridiculous and the doctor wants me to gain 5-10 more pounds, phew…. I am not ready for that.

My suggestions for YOU

Pregnancy is fun, it sucks, but it is fun! It’s fun seeing people’s reactions to the news and being honest about how I’m not happy go lucky…like most pregnant women.

I don’t get cravings, I’m just hungry.
I hate water.
I hate not fitting into my clothes.
I hate people telling me “Oh you’re pregnant you should or you shouldn’t…”

  • I’m sorry but if I wanted your advice or help I would have asked for it. And if I’m not SUPPOSED to be doing it, I won’t. But screw all the new  rules about what I can and can’t eat. I won’t eat fish, raw meat, alcohol, drugs or anything that would make me sick if I wasn’t pregnant.. happy? And I will lift my 25lbs weight max. until my belly doesn’t allow me to, when I’m tired or in pain, I will let you know…mmmmmk!
    I am not hurt nor am I handicap… I am pregnant and still working… so please let me work.

So my suggestions for you, new mom or future baby carrier…

> Start your prenatal vitamin with DHA … As soon as possible
    DHA helps future baby’s brain grow… because yours right now is pretty useless
       -I am a planned and organized girl. “There is a place for everything and everything has it’s place” … until you’re pregnant, then everything moves to a differeent place and you will lose your phone, keys, wallet, and purse within 2 hrs and 3 feet of each other.

> Cut off extra spending now and save your change!
    – my change jar holds approx. $131… I can fill it up about once a month, that’s an extra $917 for FB!

>Don’t purchase, find the hidden frugle you! Take advantage of any offer, coupon, and find ways to save and get samples and other things for FREE or just pay shipping!
   – Enfamil Family Beginning
   – Gerber Life Fund
   – VIB from Babies’R’Us
   – Motherhood Maternity (Spend $75, get restaurant gift cards)
   – Coupon books are everywhere for new moms, just keep your eyes open
   – Amazon Moms . com
   – diapers.com

>Find your doctor
   – find a doctor you LOVE, one that listens to you, laughs with you, and one that you are truly comfortable with, I was not so lucky with this.
       My doctor was new to me, I had recently moved to a new area and tried finding someone my insurance would cover. And from day 1, I was not comfortable in the office, let along speaking to the doctor or staff, but I settled for 3 appointments and $700 later. I have BCBS insurance, I had also signed up for State funded medical. Once my State funded medical went through, I had told my doctors office I would be using both insurances. Instead of speaking to me like an adult, the receptionist told me rudely “we don’t take that for primary and we will not take that as secondary”. So I asked if there was anyway they would, so I wouldn’t have to switch doctors. She then procedded to tell me it was a week process because the doctor would have to approve it. I had asked her to do this for me, the length of time didn’t concern me. Until about an hour later…the Insurance lady called stating they would NOT except this insurance and the I had BCBS and I will need to pay my monthly charge they had already gave to me and any other lab fees. And they couldn’t understand why I would need two insurances.
Well with my feelings smashed, confidence lowered and hopes lost… I called my mom. Who then proceded to find me a doctor 5 minutes away who is ABSOLUTELY amazing, no problem working with BOTH of my insurances, and helped me with more things in one visit then the old doctor did in 3 visits. She allowed me to joke and tell about my mishaps and unplanned pregnancy, she seemed excited to speak to me about my concerns and stories, and understood when I said “I don’t know”. so i BEG you…find a doctor that takes your insurace, state funded or not, excepts your mishaps and short comings, funky personality, and someone you have all over comfort with.

> OH YEA… State HELP!… Do it.
   – Our government has set up help for those in need and damn do we need it as parents! Not only are you worried about you but now you have future baby to worry about! So make this another way to save. Don’t lie or cheat the system, don’t do drugs and leave your job, and don’t trade your food stamps for things… its completely pointless and weird. But do apply for medical assistance, WIC, food stamps, and any other program you find! Don’t be ashamed about it either. I work 40 PLUS hours a week, I’ve worked since I was 14, I pay about $75-$100 per paycheck into state funded insurance  so I’ll be damned if I’m ashamed to use my own money on me and future baby.

> Don’t be afraid to say no to people…or disagree with them.
   – If you don’t want someone’s advice or help, tell them. (Politely, of course!)
> Find comfy clothes, Buy bigger clothes, and put your pre-preggo clothes out of site
   – I found that every time I looked in my closet, I got a little overwhelmed with my weight gain and felt bad about myself… so I moved all my pre-preggo clothes on the side of my closet I do not look at and hung up all my new sweaters, skirts, and flowy shirts up…cute outfits to come now!

> Buy comfortable, cotton undies and bras… seriously it makes a world of difference

> Buy, rent, or borrow Pregnancy books and download all the apps
   – My favs are
     ~ What to expect, when your expecting (book and app)
     ~ SPOUT app
     ~ Enfamil Family Beginnings app
     ~ Baby Center Pregnancy app

> Laugh Often, cry if you need to, and relax
   – What a better time to pamper yourself. I do my spa things at home but if you can find the time and money to get to the spa GO. If not here’s some at home remedies
     ~ Pedi – soak your feet in warm water with fresh cut oranges, scrub your feet with a 1/2 sugar 1/2 oil mix, rinse off, dry.. paint your tootsies
     ~ Spa-Bath – Purchase Epsom salts, 1/2 cup of Epsom salts to a tub with Eucalyptus, Peppermint, or Lavender Extract… Enjoy
     ~ Spa Facial – Baking Soda and Lemon. Allow the Baking Soda to bubble and fizz from squeezing the lemon juice on it. Once it is done fizzing, rub the mix on your face ( DO NOT SCRUB IT), let sit for 5-8 minutes and rinse with warm water

> Buy BioOil ($20 for a large one at Walgreens)
   – Apply 2x daily, even if your not showing yet. Better safe then sorry!

> Take pictures of your belly!
   – You may hate those pictures now, but friends and family love to see them and you will want them to remember!

> and last but not least.. Love it, Live it, You’re going to be a Mom!

Research, Blogs, and Pictures

I read blogs, did research, found a doctor in my area and started my preparations with the little knowledge I had. I mean, I’ve been around babies and kids, I love them all; I just wasn’t prepared to be a mom, just yet. So here’s my research and maybe some answers for you!

I live(d) on Pinterest and browsed through all the cute outfits, fun things to do as mom and dad, but I also started reading blogs…terrible blogs…maybe like this one. But blogs that I thought Why the flying F*$% did YOU write a blog about children. A blog like “What you should do BEFORE having a child”. 

This blog told you things like make sure you don’t put your electrical appliances near the bath water, your pets are friendly, and house is baby proof. Well… REALLY… you mean you’re not supposed to put the toaster in the bath tub… MAYBE just MAYBE you should have a wrote a blog called I am the reason there are SO MANY warning labels. So, I quit reading blogs… for awhile.

I stuck with my What To Expect when your Expecting, parenthood magazines, and information from the doctor and hospital. Until one day I was being curious and read blogs about “what they don’t tell you”… WTF was I thinking?!

I read a blog about the ABSOLUTE WORST child bearing experience and recovery a person could EVER go through and went back to ‘how the hell am I going to do this’ mind set. So I texted mom because she would know the medical terms I did not.

December 9, 2012

Me: What’s perennial?

Mom: If your talking about plants it means they come back at least 2 seasons like the ones I plant
Annual means only one season

no thats not the word! perinial…something about I will have pernial pains. peraniel? idk : /
something about my va-jay-jay

you’re an idiot ; p
perianal. pain in your perianal region

why am I am idiot? I can’t spell and it just keeps coming up everywhere like I’m supposed to know about this… what the hell is perinanal..my booty hole? or snatch?

rofl
both rofl

is that where they stitch you up?

sometimes

ok am I really going to get heimeroids?

can you work on not making me pee my pants

hemroids?…do I need preparation h?
you’re not hleping me
MOM!

your killing me

this shits not funny

no you may not get hemorrhoids, it is possible
i just wet the couch rofl

I read a blog yesterday and it made me wanna throw in the towel now and she said she got perianal bleeding and didn’t fully recover until after 3 months and hemroids, and ducalax.YUCKKK
and she had a chart of lochi??? colors that were like tellow to red and she said I needed maternity panties
and that I may pee my pants or never pee at all…this sounds terrible.

yes, there is a lot of bad that is possible but be positive. quit reading bs blogs

can i just have a speedy recovery and no C section, tho it may make my recovery “period” longer, I don’t want a scar, stitches, or anyone digging in my uterus.

yes, that is how its normally done

And that was the end of blogs for me! Then after re-reading our messages to Robert I found myself laughing at my own stupidity and decided to write a blog.

Where to Start? Oh… The Positive Test AKA The Freak Out

Ok, so where to start? I guess…Welcome to motherhood, parenthood, surrogacy training, or any other reason why you would be reading about my journey through pregnancy.

I’ll start here by telling you my story and why I write to you…Mostly it’s because my life and questions are comical… and sometimes dramatic. I find my life humorous.

This “Future Baby” or FB was exceptionally unplanned. I found out at a donation clinic… YES DONATION, meaning I wanted to help anouther couple have the child they always wanted, but ironically I found out I was 10 weeks. TEN WEEKS, TWO WHOLE MONTHS!!!! pregnant, in tears wondering WHAT THE HELL I was going to do.

Well… I cried a lot. Then I talked with the nurses in the clinic who reassured me; things were going to be ok. So I called my boyfriend, Robert until he answered on the NINTH TRY and cried more. I then proceeded to put my big girl panties on, drove home, and cried. HA Then I went shopping for a dress, with my  mom.

Retail Therapy never works for me but after calming down, talking with the nurses, my mom, my boyfriend, telling my dad and then my best friend .. I was scared as hell but I was having a baby, Future Baby, that is. So here’s my journey. Enjoy : )